Wedding

I am officially now very much into the wedding mode… the light beacon that shines on that May 10th date is getting brighter and bigger with more and more wedding tasks done/being ticked off the seemingly neverending list. I’m very excited!!

It’s pretty interesting… this world of weddings. Did you know that some brides buy a few wedding dresses and a few wedding veils and a few sets of accessories before they decide finally which one is the ‘perfect’ ensemble for their wedding? As a result, many of these “rejected” dresses and veils and other things are put on ebay/craigslist/other bridal internet forums for other brides to buy at a much reduced price. It’s great for bargain-hunters, of course, but I just don’t understand why brides would spend so much extra money in the first place? I guess I don’t know all the stories behind each item for sale. Actually, there was one ad on craigslist that said the wedding was called off and because of that, the bride-no-more wanted to sell her wedding outfit. That is sad, of course.

I don’t think I’ve become anything like some of the “bride-zillas” that we see on these wedding TV shows. But I can see how one can easily get sucked into the wedding world black hole where the details can be never-ending with that mentality of wanting a “perfect wedding”. So please, if anyone sees me spiraling into this world, please give me a strong pinch and bring me back to the real world!

Some people say the hardest thing about wedding planning is getting the venue. I say, it is the invite list. How do you choose who to invite and who not to? So we are aiming at 200 people and, of my hundred, my first rough list had about 120 people — and that doesn’t count family. Good thing I have a tiny family — WRONG. My dad has 9 siblings with spouses, children, and grandchildren. If you don’t get invited, I am really sorry. Honest. I tried hard, real hard… but if I choose one person, another person cannot come.

I like to think of this like the Christian doctrine of predestination. Many people argue that if God has chosen some people to go to heaven, then he has also chosen other people to eternal damnation (known as “double predestination”). Others (whom I agree with) say that God has chosen a select number to go to heaven and passed over the rest (that is, He has not really chosen a destiny for the rest). Likewise, it is not like I chose that this or that person could not come — the goal was to choose the select number who could come. So for those who have been “passed over,” I’m really sorry.

According to my checklist, we now have about 160 more tasks to do before May 10th, 2008 when singlehood shall end and a new adventure shall begin! Despite the many tasks, Betty and I are excited about the progress. Perhaps, we will get married this year!